Boy has this last year+ been a whirlwind! I last left off writing about taking a break. Soon after that post my grandmother passed away in October of 2017 which then lead to a series of events that derailed my progress and forced a change in plans that led me to where I am today.
If I hadn’t already mentioned it, we moved into my grandmothers house after our restaurant closed. We were flat broke and had nowhere to go at that point. My mother told us to move into my grandmothers house. My Grandmother had recently moved in with my uncle because she could no longer live by herself and and her house was vacant. This was a godsend at the time. We were so grateful to have a place to rest, recover and get back on our feet. This is exactly what we needed and we set our intentions to take full advantage of the opportunity given to us and that is exactly what we did. However things were about to get complicated. My grandmother took out a reverse mortgage on the house a few years prior. I had never heard of a reverse mortgage but in the months to come, I would soon learn the process and the challenges it brings on to the heirs.
The short version is that when she passed away it began a countdown.
We would have to figure out how to buy the house back from the reverse mortgage company or we would lose the house and be back in a situation we did not want to return to. I navigated through the reverse mortgage process which I will go into further detail in posts to come. It was a stressful few months to say the least.
The months following went by so fast. There was so much going on at once and honestly I was shell shocked. I was scared that I was about to be homeless, my sister was getting married in December for which I was her Maid of Honor, I had daily struggles of dealing with the fallout from our restaurant closing, all while dealing with the normal challenges of life and trying to keep our heads above water. Everything seemed blown out of proportion.
Some of you may know that during this time I was also trying to start another new business. It sprouted from making decorations, invitations, and favors for my sister’s wedding. I really enjoyed making everything handmade. I felt that everything had a personal touch. The feedback that I received from the wedding made me start to think about doing this for a living. So I started a handmade business, “Handmade by Jenngee” in which I sell custom handmade gifts, decor, and wedding accessories. Something that started as a hobby has really taken off, I’m excited to expand the brand and to try new and exciting things!
Throughout all this I continued my full time job as a server. Although I still enjoy parts of the restaurant business I just really feel like it is keeping my focus away from what I really want to be doing. I wanted to leave the restaurant to focus on my blog and handmade business but even though things are going well, they haven’t been enough to completely replace my income from serving. In trying to solve this dilemma, I attempted to find a job that would mesh better with my overall goals and intentions of my blog and handmade business.
I have been interested in real estate for a long time and Mike’s mom is a realtor. She was always telling me that she thought I would do really well in realty.
I started to look for jobs in real estate and found a position as a real estate assistant.
The position felt like it was right up my alley. I was going to be able to work with the staging crew, learn transactions, social media marketing, lead generation, and many other things. The gig was sold as I would be able to become part of the team and I really loved it. The staging aspect went right along as with my interest in design and decor. The marketing, I loved because I could pull from the experience of my own businesses. I loved doing open houses and meeting new clients. I loved it so much that I decided I wanted to get my real estate license. But unfortunately even though I loved what I was doing, I was still in the same situation. Too much going on and not making enough to make it work.
I had been led to believe that the assistant position I had taken would pay enough for me to leave the restaurant. I was told once I got my license I “would be handed leads on a silver platter”. It all kind of sounded too good to be true. And it was. At this point, I was trying to write blog posts, start up and run a new handmade business, navigate the reverse mortgage home buying process, work at the restaurant full time, be a part time staging assistant, a part time showing assistant, and a part time marketing assistant, all while going to school to get my real estate license. It was too much. I was spreading myself too thin. I was trying to do so many things that I wasnt doing any of the all that well.
The first thing to go was my diet and exercise routine, totally put on the back burner.
More on that in posts to come. The next thing to get neglected was my blog. I would still write posts but I fell off my schedule and the posts never made it past rough draft. My handmade business was the next thing to get neglected. I didn’t stop it completely but it definitely wasn’t getting the attention it needed. I still went to work at my serving job full time but I certainly wasn’t engaged the way I normally am and my income suffered. Honestly, during the six weeks I was in school it was really hard to focus on anything but that. I passed the class and my test and got my real estate license. At that point it was right back to square one of starting a new business as a realtor.
During this entire process, right after we bought the house we started to renovate the kitchen.
I was absolutely exhausted.
I started training as a showing assistant and I was constantly on the go. Running around town showing clients homes and racing home just in time to change into my server clothes and go to the restaurant. Then come home and eat late to then passing out and doing it all over again the next day.
There was no time for my blog, handmade business, or my health and wellness. My goals went right out the window. I just kept telling myself that this was just the dues that you have to pay to get setup in a new career. I don’t think I was wrong about that but what ended up being evident was that I was trying to do too much at once.
Furthermore it became clear that for my real estate career I just wasn’t on the right team.
It didn’t take very long to see my goals and the goals of the team leader did not mesh. We were not on the same page. I just felt like I was being lead around with a carrot on a stick. I kept being put on the back burner. When I finally cornered my team leader to discuss the situation it became clear this was the case. We did not share the same vision. I had to make a change.
The assistant position didn’t pay enough to replace my serving income. Not even close. And no leads were coming my way. None. I kept being told how I was going to get leads handed to me. But I just kept getting the run around.
My team leader wanted to push me into a marketing position with a salary that was half of what I was making at the restaurant. Which would not allow me to leave the restaurant which was the reason I took the job in the first place.
The plan was supposed to be to couple my handmade business, and blog with real estate.
At this point real estate had completely stopped my handmade business and blog and it was cutting into my server income. I was working harder than I ever had and felt like I was moving backwards. I had to take a time out and reevaluate my situation. The next day, I told the team leader I was leaving the team.
I focused my attention back on the restaurant to get caught up on some bills and I worked on reevaluating the plan to better achieve my intended goals.
“Telling my story and hearing others has always been my passion. “
So I wanted to rededicate myself to that in my schedule and make time for blogging. My handmade business brings me a sense of fulfillment and I dont want to sacrifice it for anything. Lastly, I love real estate, I love meeting new people. I love seeing all the houses, I love staging them. I love helping other people find and create a sense of home.
This is definitely a complicated equation to balance and I have definitely struggled in my attempts. But I refuse to give up and I know that if I keep heading in this direction and making course corrections although the way, I will get there.
I decided to go out on my own as a real estate agent.
With that I started Sold by Jenngee. This way I can control my own schedule. I have refocused on my handmade business and recently launched my hand poured soy candle line. I have recommitted to my blog and starting with this post I will stick to my writing and posting schedule. Lastly, I am making a commitment to myself to get back on track with my diet exercise and weight loss goals. As long as I stay focused it is only a matter of time until I accomplish my goals, am able to leave my serving job and focus 100% on my brand and blog.
One of my goals for 2019, is to focus more on writing and sharing with others. I have been quiet the past year and that wasn’t the plan at all. There’s nothing I want more than to be apart of a community that helps one another. I want to offer what I have learned along the way on my path to success as well as open myself up to receive help from others. Furthermore, I want to become a more organized person to help me achieve the goals I have set. Does anyone have advice to help me become more organized? I know my goals are lofty. What are some suggestions to help me achieve all the things I wish to accomplish?